Great cataclysmic things can go by and neither the orchestra nor the conductor are under the delusion that whether they make this or that gesture is going to be the deciding factor in how it comes out.
When they are performing in front of the public, they ought to have a sensation that's relatively easy, if the technical and the interpretive work was done before.
I can imagine wanting to work with this ensemble and this company always.
As major orchestras around the world are gripped in various kinds of crises and upheaval, we need to be sure that we are bringing up this new generation.
At my age, you are naturally inclined towards teaching.
What's interesting is that both men and women are struggling with this issue in remarkably similar percentages, but the big difference is that women tend to talk about this when men keep it silent.
Women tend to have recognition and peer group support - recognition from friends and family that this has to be a big issue in their lives. They're more comfortable expressing the need for support and receiving it.
Working mothers do an hour more per day than working fathers do and working mothers do on average an hour more per day with the kids than working fathers do.
So, the total number of hours spent on the stuff you have to do to take care of a family, working and caring for stuff at home, the total number of hours is actually about the same for mothers and fathers.
And, over the last thirty years we have seen men's participation in both housework and childcare has increased and women's have stayed at about the same.
My hunch is that probably men are doing more both outside the home and inside the home.
The invisible dilemma is that men face the very real problem that they don't feel comfortable bringing these issues up and they tend not to be acknowledged at work.
Employee fathers need to step up to the plate and put their family needs on the table.
Second, if you're the boss, just because they don't ask doesn't mean your employees don't have needs.
We found that when people put this issue on the table, it turns out that men acknowledge the issue, and employers and employees can work out solutions just as working mothers do.
I thought I'd write one book and the world would change overnight.
They've really got to recognize that all of us bring some of our family issues to work and our work home.
We do not seem to be finding tomorrow's Toscas.
