Blue Valentine Quotes

Dean: I feel like men are more romantic than women. When we get married, we marry, like, one girl, 'cause we're resistant the whole way until we meet one girl and we think, "I'd be an idiot if I didn't marry this girl. She's so great." But it seems like girls get to a place where they just kinda pick the best option or something. I know girls that get married. They're like, "Oh,

he's got a good job." I mean they spend their whole life looking for Prince Charming and then they marry the guy who's got a good job and is gonna stick around.

Dean: In my experience, the prettier a girl is, the more nuts she is, which makes you insane. You're probably nutty, coo-coo crazy. It's not your fault, you know? Just like, everybody treats you different, you know? Like, you make jokes and they're not funny, but people laugh anyway. That's gotta make you nuts.
Cindy: I like how you can compliment and

insult somebody at the same time, in equal measure.

Cindy: What did it feel like when you fell in love?
Gramma: Oh... oh dear, I don't think I found it.
Cindy: Even with grandpa?
Gramma: Maybe a little, in the beginning. He didn't really have any regard for me as a person. You gotta be careful with that. You gotta be careful with the person you fall in love is

worth it... to you.
Cindy: I never want to be like my parents. I know they must've loved each other at one time, right? To just get it all out of the way before they had me. How do you trust your feelings when they can just disappear like that?
Gramma: I think the only way you can find out is to have the feeling. You're a good person. You have the

right to say, "I do trust. I do trust myself."

Dean: [Having dinner in the Future room] You're not gonna eat that?
Cindy: Why don't you do something?
Dean: What do you mean?
Cindy: I don't know.
Dean: What does that mean, "Why don't I do something?"
Cindy: I don't know. Isn't there something you wanted to do?

Isn't there something you wanna do?
Dean: Like what?
Cindy: I don't know. You're so good at so many things. You could do anything you wanted to do. You're good at everything that you do. Isn't there something else you wanna do?
Dean: Than what? Than be your husband? Than being Frankie's dad? What do you want me to do?

What-what-what... in your, like, dream scenario of me, like, doing what I'm good at, what would that be?
Cindy: I don't know. I just... You're so good at so many things. You can do so many things. You have such capacity.
Dean: For what?
Cindy: I don't... You can sing, you can draw, you can...
[chuckles]

Cindy: dance.
Dean: [Exhales] Listen, I didn't wanna be somebody's husband, okay? And I didn't wanna be somebody's dad. That wasn't my... goal in life. For some guys it is - wasn't mine. But somehow I've... it was what I wanted. I didn't know that. And it's all I wanna do. I don't want to do anything else. That's what I want to do. I work so I can do that.

Cindy: I'd like to see you have a job where you don't have to start drinking at 8 o'clock, in the morning, to go to it.
Dean: No, I have a job that I *can* drink at 8 o'clock in the morning. What a luxury, you know? I get up for work, I have a beer, I go to work, I paint somebody's house - they're excited about it. I come home, I get to be with you.

What's... Like, this is the dream.
Cindy: Doesn't it ever disappoint you?
Dean: Why? Why would it disappoint me? I could still do whatever I could do.
Cindy: Because you have all this potential.
Dean: So what? Why do you have to fucking make money off your potential?
Cindy: Look,

I'm not even saying you have to make money off it. Do you miss it?
Dean: What does potential mean? What does even potential mean? What does that mean, "potential"? Potential for what? To turn it into what?
Cindy: We rarely sit down and have an adult conversation because every time we do... you take what I say and turn it around into something that I

didn't mean. You just... twist it. Start blabbing. Blah-blah-blah-blah-blah.
Dean: If you're not interested in what I have to say, then maybe I just shouldn't say anything.
Cindy: [laughs]

Dean: [long silence before Dean speaks] You know, it's not just us, we got a little girl we gotta think about.
[breaks into tears]
Cindy: I know... I... I can't do this anymore.
Dean: You're just thinking about yourself. What about Frankie? You want her to grow up in a broken home? Is that what you want?

Cindy: I am thinking about Frankie.
Dean: You're not thinking about Frankie.
Cindy: I am thinking about Frankie.
Dean: No, you're not. Is this how you want her to grow up?
Cindy: I don't want her to grow up in a home where her parents treat each other like this.
[Dean cries and

hits the wall four times]
Cindy: Don't.
Dean: I'm sorry. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Baby, I'm sorry.
Cindy: [Cindy sobs] I can't do this anymore.
Dean: I know. Baby, I'm just fighting, you know? Fighting for my family. I don't know what to do. I don't know what else to do.

Dean: Can I talk to you for a second?
Cindy: Why?
Dean: You think I stole that money, don't you? Yeah, you do.
Cindy: No.
Dean: Look, I've stolen money before, okay, I know what it's like to get busted. That's what it feels like. I didn't steal it. I've got a job. Okay? This is my job.

Cindy: Okay, I got it.
Dean: I make money. Money I can take girl's out to dates with. Just so you know.