Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

My mom is an excellent mom. She knows I am irascible, prickly, and antisocial. She knows that most human interaction makes me tired and that I either scare people away with precise invectives or trot out the fakest, nicest skinjob of myself because it requires zero effort.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Food rules. Little rivals the pleasure of tearing into a glistening burger.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

'Awkward' is a ubiquitous teen word to denote socially unsanctioned behavior. It usually implies first- or secondhand embarrassment when you or a friend step outside the rules. Awkward doesn't sound overtly judgmental or negative; it's deliberately vague.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

In order to be a good emergency contact, you need a lot of friend-patience and empathy. Often, this comes from personal experience with anxiety, trauma, and depression.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Reading aloud to other people is wonderful - if you have people who will suffer it.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

I find texting to be kind of a safe space.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Even the coolest jobs get stultifying with repetition, and the only way to break that cycle is to bring another job into the mix.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

SoulCycle feels gross, is gross, and I'm grateful to have found it.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Never post anything personal to your Facebook wall. Or anyone else's, for that matter. Only snitches and teachers look at Facebook.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

I have horrible shoe hang-ups. Particularly when it comes to flats.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Everyone is such a mystery, yet we chug along so much of the time presuming we're all on the same page.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

I'm a sucker when it comes to under-explored human potential and 'stuff that makes you be better.'

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

I was born in Korea and left before my first birthday.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

I am obsessed with Neil Patrick Harris on Twitter.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

By the time you're in your 30s, unless somebody makes the god-awful decision to gift you with a cooking class or salsa lessons, it may have been a while since you learnt something new.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

If you are someone's emergency contact - you are their person, and they are your person - there is work involved.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Nothing is more untoward than a grown man tasking another with snapping a pic expressly so he can 'flex the 'fit.' It's tacky -self-aggrandizing - and speaks to an existential neediness typically reserved for failed actresses and phenomenally successful rappers.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Learning to ride a bike in a public park means anyone can see you.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

Instagram is not a place for tone or irony.

Mary H.K. Choi
Mary H.K. Choi

The thing about leaving New York is that you can come back.