Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

A father who is distracted for a few minutes by his myriad interests and obligations in the world of adult interactions is being, well, a father. A mother who does the same is failing her children.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

Children are pretty darn smart and capable if we give them space and structure to grow.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I grew up in a time when I could play and bike in the neighborhood, largely because my parents assumed that if I ever needed help, I could ask a nearby adult.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

Motherhood has become a battleground on which prejudice and class resentment can be waged without ever admitting that's what we're doing.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

People don't think that leaving children alone is dangerous and therefore immoral. They think it is immoral and therefore dangerous.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I always knew my mother loved me, but I also knew just as surely that there were moments, hours, days, when she could hardly cope with her own life, much less motherhood. Often, these episodes came without warning, like a change in weather, and so I became a meteorologist of her dysphoria.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I don't want to believe it - that parenting itself makes art hard, that you must always sacrifice one for the other, that there is something inherently selfish and greedy and darkly obsessive in the desire to care as much about the thing you are writing or making as you do about the other humans in your life. What parent would want to believe this?

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

All interesting, worthwhile humans suffered and struggled and overcame adversity of one sort or another. Pain is constructive. Misery can be useful. I believed this the way I believe the sun rises in the east. Then I had children, and I slowly began to disbelieve and disavow it.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I wonder if all love affairs, all marriages, all lifelong partnerships, aren't in some ways a turning away from the world.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

A slice of perfectly buttered, warm-from-the-oven bread has been known to bring tears to my eyes.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I was 15 when I first read 'The Feminine Mystique,' locked in my bedroom, probably wearing black, groping for any ideas I could find on how not to become my mother.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

'Did our parents really let us do that?' is a game my friends and I sometimes play. We remember taking off on bikes alone, playing in the woods for hours, crawling through storm drains to follow creek beds.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

In college, I'd gone abroad to get away from a campus where I felt I didn't fit in. And I started writing fiction, at least in part, because it was a way to feel like I was around people, to feel the energy and hum of others' inner lives, without the real-time frustrations and difficulties of actual relationships.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

When I read stories of suffering, I still feel something. It seems inhuman not to. At the same time, I'm more aware than ever of how little my feeling is worth, of how - if we are to truly keep alive the conditions that make ethical life possible - it is not empathy that's needed but insight, organization, and action.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I've written out itineraries for baby sitters with years of experience. I've gotten up in the middle of the night and stood over my children's sleeping bodies just to make sure they're breathing, and breathing well. In short, I'm the worst Jewish mother in the world. I make Alexander Portnoy's mother look like a laid-back Earth mama.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

Serious relationships draw us away from the circle of friends that seemed so adequate, so fulfilling. Marriage cements these inward movements. Children draw partners closer, but they can also draw you further away from the friends and lives you once knew.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

The desire to keep television out of our son's life was one of the few parenting priorities my husband and I agreed on from the beginning. We debated the pros and cons of co-sleeping, of pacifiers, of chemical-free crib mattresses and baby sign language. The television question, on the other hand, was a no-brainer.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

I got an MFA in fiction.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

It shouldn't be normal to be anxious all the time about your children, so women should seek mental health help if they're having excessive levels of anxiety.

Kim Brooks
Kim Brooks

As a teenager, I'd longed to get my driver's license so I could get away from my parents. Then I'd longed to go to college to get away from the people I'd called my friends.