Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

The bashful are always aggressive at heart.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

The need to exert power, when thwarted in the open fields of life, is the more likely to assert itself in trifles.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

Between richer and poorer classes in a free country a mutually respecting antagonism is much healthier than pity on the one hand and dependence on the other, as is, perhaps, the next best thing to fraternal feeling.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

When one ceases from conflict, whether because he has won, because he has lost, or because he cares no more for the game, the virtue passes out of him.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

We have no higher life that is really apart from other people. It is by imagining them that our personality is built up; to be without the power of imagining them is to be a low-grade idiot.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

Failure sometimes enlarges the spirit. You have to fall back upon humanity and God.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

The general fact is that the most effective way of utilizing human energy is through an organized rivalry, which by specialization and social control is, at the same time, organized co-operation.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

There is hardly any one so insignificant that he does not seem imposing to some one at some time.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

There is nothing less to our credit than our neglect of the foreigner and his children, unless it be the arrogance most of us betray when we set out to 'Americanize' him.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

Each man must have his I; it is more necessary to him than bread; and if he does not find scope for it within the existing institutions he will be likely to make trouble.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

The literature of the inner life is very largely a record of struggle with the inordinate passions of the social self.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

A man may lack everything but tact and conviction and still be a forcible speaker; but without these nothing will avail... Fluency, grace, logical order, and the like, are merely the decorative surface of oratory.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

Every general increase of freedom is accompanied by some degeneracy, attributable to the same causes as the freedom.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

If we divine a discrepancy between a man's words and his character, the whole impression of him becomes broken and painful; he revolts the imagination by his lack of unity, and even the good in him is hardly accepted.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

There is no way to penetrate the surface of life but by attacking it earnestly at a particular point.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

We are ashamed to seem evasive in the presence of a straightforward man, cowardly in the presence of a brave one, gross in the eyes of a refined one, and so on. We always imagine, and in imagining share, the judgments of the other mind.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

A talent somewhat above mediocrity, shrewd and not too sensitive, is more likely to rise in the world than genius.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

The idea that seeing life means going from place to place and doing a great variety of obvious things is an illusion natural to dull minds.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

So far as discipline is concerned, freedom means not its absence but the use of higher and more rational forms as contrasted with those that are lower or less rational.

Charles Horton Cooley
Charles Horton Cooley

One should never criticize his own work except in a fresh and hopeful mood. The self-criticism of a tired mind is suicide.